Coming home from lunch today I was behind a thirty-something-year-old guy at a stop sign when I saw him chuck a Big Gulp cup out his window. This a total trigger for me. And knowing that it is a trigger I heard myself say, "Oh, dang it," because I knew I would have to follow him and confront him about it. Yep, I just knew that about myself.
I hate confrontation, really, but as I get older I realize that sometimes you have to say things that need saying. Like when I hold parent/teacher conferences, and after I inform the parents that their son is not cutting it on letter sounds the mom looks at her son (her 5-year old special education son), points at his chest and says, "You need to study more!" At this moment I make sure to say that thing that needs saying. I say, "Actually, we can't expect him to take the initiative to study on his own. He needs you to guide him through it."
Confrontation doesn't always need to take the form of yelling or arguing. It can be a calm interaction where you state your opinion, which is opposed to the other person. Unless you throw garbage out your window in my town. In that case you may get an earful that sounds a little something like, "Was I mistaken when I saw a big cup flying out of your window back there? I will chase you down again, you better believe it."