day 301: your own flight

It would be an easier thing to step in and help solve your dilemma.
It would be quicker and make you feel better.
But solving things doesn't always solve things.
Rolling up your sleeves and thinking through your own problems is good for you.
You are becoming more and more able to plan and think about what matters.
And once we are not so close in proximity you will be glad you have had a chance to stretch your wings.
Because those wings will sometimes glide, but often will need to flap.  And flap hard.

7 comments

misssrobin | June 16, 2010 at 11:58 PM

Sometimes I claim to be fostering independence when I'm really just too tired to help.

I guess that wasn't the point though, huh?

TechnoBabe | June 17, 2010 at 7:06 AM

That is one of the things I had to learn when I understood the true meaning of boundaries.

Kimberly | June 17, 2010 at 9:42 AM

Solving things doesn't always solve things. Oh lady, the truth in that! Beautiful post.

Juliana | June 17, 2010 at 11:15 AM

It's amazing to read this today after what I just posted on my blog.

I'm flapping right now, but I am still stuck in the mud. I'm chanting to myself, "It won't last forever. It won't last forever." And hoping that *this* is the low point.

Lara | June 17, 2010 at 10:49 PM

I always tell myself this when it takes three hours for my kids to clean up, when I could do it in five minutes.

You are so very wise.

Charlotte | June 18, 2010 at 11:11 AM

This is one of the hardest things to do as a parent. To not fix things (even if you can). But in the long run, it is the best way to be a parent.

Luann | June 24, 2010 at 8:13 AM

Keeping that long view in mind can be tough on a mom, but you are so right. Well said.