blue glass taken by karen burton
Have you ever said to someone, "I will love you no matter what"?
I have. And I am here to tell you that sometimes that is a tough promise to keep.
Sometimes you want to shake that other person and ask why they are trying so hard to test that promise. But most of the times you just shake your own head (and heart) instead, as you wonder what is going on. I can get myself pretty worked up just thinking about ways I have felt disappointed or let down by people I have invested in.
On the other side of things, I have found that the more I say "I love you" out loud, the more it becomes true (no matter what).
And I also believe very deeply that you can begin loving someone before you even meet her/him. Like the way I love my 4 daughters-in-law, only one of whom I have met.
You commit early. You open your heart. And then you feel it. The love that you know has been there for eons, even though it is a new acquaintance. It's like magic, I tell you.
It's a refining thing, this unconditional kind of love. It is maybe more about us, as the promisers, than about them, as the recipients of the promise.
No matter what.