my very own womanhood

The girl part of me needs its own space, and for the most part I am allowed that.

I have a kind and sensitive husband that understands when I need to cry a little, or curl up in a ball and beg for ibuprofin.  I am lucky like that.  My sons are old enough to get it a little more too.   

Ladies need to be alone sometimes.  Sometimes our bodies hurt because we bleed every month when we are preparing to have a baby and one doesn't get made.  We change and get ready for some things that never happen.  And in this case, our bodies pay a little.  But it is worth it.  That is how I got you.

I have never been one to be too shy around my sons.  If I don't teach them directly about women, who will? In the proper way?  I am happy to play that part.  Sometimes the teaching is direct, other times indirect.  Whatever it takes.

18 comments

BriannEm | April 19, 2011 at 12:05 PM

I am on your side in every way about this post. It hurts and it aches, but it's worth it. This is part of everyone's life cycle regardless of your gender.

LisAway | April 19, 2011 at 3:17 PM

Oh, with all boys you have a great responsibility, don't you! Sounds like your direct/indirect approach is a good one. :)

Cherie | April 19, 2011 at 3:34 PM

Yes Boys definately need to be taught about girls, their hormones, what happens to their bodies and how to treat them. No place better than at home!
I had a hysterectomy last year and while I was healing my husband had to go on a business trip for a few days and my sons had to take care of me - they did a fab job and got an education of sorts in the process - ha ha!

Kazzy | April 19, 2011 at 4:16 PM

Wow, Cherie. I bet they did.

Jenny | April 19, 2011 at 4:21 PM

my girls and I snuggle up with the bottle of ibuprofen and a micro wave rice pack. My boys know by now that those are the signs of stay away, don't talk to me and give me my space. Some times they will say "do you need anything?"

Kazzy | April 19, 2011 at 4:28 PM

Good boys, Jenny. :)

mermaid gallery | April 19, 2011 at 7:21 PM

I saw stevie nicks on oprah singing, landslide , so when i saw it in your list, i just had to listen....fabulous!....your boys are super lucky....as are we all...good stuff! i love visiting and tuning in.....

Joanie | April 19, 2011 at 7:43 PM

I am sure your son's future wives will appreciate all that you have taught them.

The Way I See It | April 19, 2011 at 10:02 PM

I haven't been so good at teaching them to take care of me. I disappear and curl up in a ball in my room. I do the "women need to be alone sometimes" part real well. Good for you though!!!

Becca | April 20, 2011 at 12:15 PM

That was an exceptional explanation. I may tape it to the wall of my son's room. It may help him weather his three older sisters.

DeNae | April 20, 2011 at 2:25 PM

There are equal parts boy parts and girl parts around here, so pretty much everything has been fair game. The first "mention" may be uncomfortable, but after that it gets better. And it really is good for the kids. And hooray for understanding husbands...which is what we're making our sons into, huh?

Connie | April 20, 2011 at 10:37 PM

You would have been a great mother to daughters too!
It's best they learn in the way you tell them. They'll be good husbands.

TechnoBabe | April 21, 2011 at 5:34 AM

Teaching by example and verbal ways will one day bring the wives of your sons to a place of appreciating that you did teach them.

Melanie Jacobson | April 21, 2011 at 10:18 AM

I guess I'd do my son a favor by explaining things to him more directly, but it's all (don't hate me) fairly easy for me and I forget that he may date or marry someone with a different experience.

Erin | April 22, 2011 at 4:32 PM

I have an uncle who is squeamish when his wife even says the word "menstruation." I look forward to teaching my boys directly so they are kind and empathetic.

wendy | April 22, 2011 at 8:26 PM

I see you as nothing less then a compassionate, loving, sensitive Mother
and woman

lucky sons.........and hubby

Libby | April 23, 2011 at 8:55 PM

Ah yes, as the mother of two boys this sounds oh so familiar. I'm not shy with my boys either I want them to grow up to be the men that respect women. My little one (he's 6) already opens the door and says 'ladies first'... chivalry will not die on my watch. Great post!

Heidi | May 16, 2011 at 5:29 PM

It's amazing how easily they take it in stride when you just give them a simple explanation, isn't it? It's the girls who say "Ew,yuck,awful, I don't wanna hear it!"