girl thoughts

I am such a girl, saddened by little things that I believe guys shrug off.

I had someone unfollow me on twitter. Not one of those random people you follow because of an interesting post, but someone who used to be a close friend. She also used to read my blog and we would offer reciprocal comments back and forth. Nope, also very little communication on FB.

Don't think twice about it, says Geo. Don't play along with that game.

I was busy enough the past few days to put it behind me. But today I had a fleeting thought about it and sent a little note. Sorry, G, but sometimes we girls need to sort out these things called relationships. At least this girl does.

No response from her. I don't really expect one.

And then the sad me asks, Does this dress make me look fat?

25 comments

Bossy Betty | May 20, 2011 at 3:26 PM

Kazzy--I understand. It's hard to let it go.....

togetherforgood | May 20, 2011 at 3:36 PM

That is so hard. I get it. :(

Yarell | May 20, 2011 at 3:48 PM

i recently unfollowed a bunch of people on twitter. not because i don't care what they have to say, but because i added them to specific lists, and didn't want them in my main timeline.

that way i can categorize things - i still see what they're saying, but only when i view the list that they're in.

Juliana | May 20, 2011 at 3:52 PM

Ugh. I know what you mean. It hurts. Sometimes, a lot. I have been missing you lately and wishing we could get together.

Marianne | May 20, 2011 at 3:55 PM

I'm sorry. Maybe this friend is dealing with something, and feels the need to pull away. That's what I do when I'm struggling...

XOXOX

Kazzy | May 20, 2011 at 4:05 PM

This friend only pulls away from me, as far as I can tell. I am not trying to be a martyr, just exorcising a bad feeling. Thanks for indulging.

Garden of Egan | May 20, 2011 at 4:07 PM

Oh my goodness!
Why would someone do that?
I don't get it.

I would never "unfollow" you. (now I need to go make sure I'm following.....duh.....I don't get the facebook thing very well.)

I luv you and your style of writing and I love that when I read you I remember that I got to meet you and have lunch.....do you remember that?

Hugs my friend.

BriannEm | May 20, 2011 at 4:10 PM

Isn't it amazing how bad it feels to be "unfollowed"? Ah technology, so cold and unfeeling.

Valerie | May 20, 2011 at 4:12 PM

Me too! Someone "unfollowed" me on blogger & it still bugs me! I feel like I did something wrong!!! :)

Connie | May 20, 2011 at 4:26 PM

Jealousy is an ugly thing! Why else would someone unfollow you? It's weird. If it was someone that you didn't really know, that would be different but when it's a friend, it hurts.
Just think of all your other friends who tell you that you look MARVELOUS in that dress!

Kazzy | May 20, 2011 at 4:30 PM

Tauna, of course I remember our lunch. Didn't we go there because Connie said they had buffalo burgers? :)

Kazzy | May 20, 2011 at 4:31 PM

Connie, the more experience I have the more I realize the value of true blue. And you are one of the bluest!

Kristina P. | May 20, 2011 at 4:59 PM

It does suck. I don't let it affect me too much but it definitely hurts sometimes.

mermaid gallery | May 20, 2011 at 6:18 PM

it really bugged me the first time...now,... not so much...but then I didn't know the person...if I knew the person, it would eat away at me....still, it's not as bad as somebody telling you to your face that they don't like you anymore......that happened to me and i was traumatized for months....i don't twitter or FB because I try to not get too personal online...

Jenny P. | May 20, 2011 at 7:49 PM

I had a close blog friend stop following me once. She had been there from the start and I immediately noticed when she disappeared. So I emailed her, right then and there. Turns out, it was a blogger glitch. To this day, she can see me as a blog she follows, but I still can't see her. In that case, I'm glad I said something because I felt awful about being dumped from someone that I felt I had a genuine connection with. I think it's good to speak up. We are all grown ups after all.

(Unless she doesn't ever respond to you. Then she's not much of a grown up.)

And though I imagine you don't need to know it to feel better, I think your fabulous. :)

LisAway | May 21, 2011 at 12:23 AM

You look FABULOUS in that dress, Kazzy! Absolutely fabulous.

Joanie | May 21, 2011 at 9:46 AM

That is tough, and the sad part is sometimes you never find the answer. You can feel good a out trying, and then as Gid says, you just move on.

Amber | May 21, 2011 at 10:49 AM

I must admit something: I would never know if someone unfollowed/unfriended me. I just can't remember numbers! But, if we regularly corresponded, I suppose I would notice.

I think it's awesome that you addressed this--it's much better to send a letter than wallow in despair and confusion.

Cherie | May 21, 2011 at 4:47 PM

Oh man! I feel that way when someone leaves my blog. It is such a sad feeling and you think "Why don't you like me".
Maybe that's not a real friend anyway.

{{Hugs}} from someone who likes you.

Rebecca | May 21, 2011 at 9:02 PM

I'm so sorry. That really stinks. I hate it when someone unfollows because I wonder what happened.

Heidi | May 22, 2011 at 3:00 PM

That would make me feel all sorts of insecure, too. In fact, that kind of thing HAS. And, I agree, men don't go through that--it's just not how they're made. However, my dad gave me some good advice, in spite of his manliness. When people do things like that, it really is more about them and their problems and insecurities and weaknesses and how they ARE than it is about YOU. When I look at things that way, it takes a lot of the sting out of it because it really is true.

Heidi | May 22, 2011 at 3:00 PM

My second choice for a comment (or perhaps my first) would be "What Lisa said".

The Way I See It | May 22, 2011 at 9:50 PM

I'm with you. I understand a girl's need to make things right. We are a relationship oriented gender and we are affected by situations such as this. I have felt sad about similar issues, and then received a double wammy when I was chastised for being TOO sensitive. Sometimes we can't win. And no, your dress does NOT make you look fat. You look fantastic!!

Charlotte | May 24, 2011 at 4:05 PM

My very first ever blog friend one day completely stopped commenting on my blog. It stung. I don't really track any of my numbers, so I wouldn't notice (for a while anyway) when someone unfriended or stopped following me. I've had a couple times where I've checked twitter and found someone I know has dropped me. Never feels too great.

Good luck getting past it.

Ken Craig | May 27, 2011 at 6:41 PM

She must be on crazy pills. That's the only way somebody would stop following you. THERE I SAID IT. I don't know who this person is, but they are CRAZY. (And that dress makes you look fabulous.)