Seek first to understand,then to be understood.
I have been spoiled by a good husband. From our very first date he has been a listener, and we have been talking and listening to each other for 23 years now.
I love meeting people and caring about them, and I actually think I am decent at it. However, I have made a recent rule of looking for and keeping in contact with friends that live by the rule at the top of this page.
If it's all about them, no good. If it's all about me, no good. But a little back and forth, that works.
ps I miss my sister. :)