Throwing a Party for Myself

Yesterday I was sitting near a friend at our sons' AA soccer game and we started reciting our own personal histories to each other.  She is from Washington, I am from Virginia.  We each have four kids, close to the same ages.  We have had similar experiences in our communities, etc.  She asked if I would reconsider this one choice I had made many years ago which has changed my destiny.  I found that I didn't even need to think about my answer.  I would make the same choice again and again if I had to.  Some things are just like that- no thinking time necessary. 

Next Wednesday is a huge day for me.  25 years ago, on the 23rd of July, I made a life-changing decision which has, well, changed my life in every single aspect.  You know, those kinds of decisions that are so crucial that you seriously cannot imagine what your life would be like had you not made them?  And you know these things have taken deep root in you when the people involved are important but not the most important part.  The most important part is how you change and remake yourself, even if it is subtle.  And then, of course, you realize that almost every other critical choice you have made is a by-product of that alpha choice.

Now I am making arrangements for my own party.  I will be sending out one invitation.  Maybe I will put some confetti in the envelope, or maybe I will glue some glitter on it.  I might even treat myself to a nice dinner out.  But one thing is for sure.  25 years ago I made the decision alone and I will celebrate my choice alone on this day.  It is the appropriate way.  There will be reflection, and maybe even an emotional moment or two.  So, if you happen to go out next Wednesday and you see a woman in her prime (read as "mid-forties") alone with a tissue in her hand, just assume it's me and those are tears of joy.


Unknown | July 17, 2008 at 4:49 PM

Not only has the that decision of yours 25 years ago had an all encompassing effect on your life, it has had a huge impact on mine as well. I'm not trying to make this all about me, because it's not. I am just saying how grateful I am to know you and thank you for the hugely positive impact you have had in the life of me and my family.

Happy Anniversary. :)

Midge | July 17, 2008 at 10:13 PM

Happy Anniversary! It is amazing how one decision by one person can effect so many people.

charrette | July 18, 2008 at 5:24 AM

Great post! And thank heaven for that one choice. I think about the void that would be in OUR lives without You where you were and are! What strength to choose that ALONE!

And now of course it spills clear over into Africa.
That ripple effect is amazing.

I hope your one-person celebration is deep, rich and wonderfully introspective. And I hope you realize the many, many other lives you have touched and influenced in those 25 years.

Connie | July 21, 2008 at 7:36 AM

I'd say to use glitter on your one invitation. It brings out the best in everything. You're an amazing woman who has made a great impact on many people's life. Enjoy your celebration!

Juliana | August 5, 2008 at 3:58 PM

Am I the only one confused about what the decision is? ha ha!