day 186: hidden fees

One of the things to watch out for right now in our economy.  Hidden fees.  It is dishonest and sneaky and everything bad about business.

But do I charge hidden fees?  Do I have expectations that I am not overt about?  Do I hold people responsible for things they never were made aware of?


I come home at the end of the day and expect that my boys will have cleaned the whole kitchen.  That homework will be completed.  That bedrooms will be clean.  And the fees I sometimes charge?  Disappointment.  A short temper.  
I am already earning so much interest on my account.  What an ungrateful CFO I can sometimes be.


wendy | February 20, 2010 at 8:16 PM

Hey I like you new look!
that was a good post.
I never thought about it--but I think I TOO probably have hidden fees that I spring on people.

something to think about for sure.

wendy | February 20, 2010 at 8:17 PM


not you new look

Heidi | February 20, 2010 at 8:27 PM

Love the new decor--and your post is very insightful. Expectations. Ugh.

Kazzy | February 20, 2010 at 8:44 PM

Wendy- I knew what you meant.

Heidi- yeah. I know.

Connie | February 20, 2010 at 10:57 PM

A change is as good as a rest. Hope you feel rested with the great change on your blog!
Hidden fees? We all have them and we all hate them! It just depends from which side we're looking.

Dona | February 21, 2010 at 3:10 AM

Thought provoking, as usual. How'd you do your new, wider, hipper blog layout? I like it!

Kimberly Vanderhorst | February 21, 2010 at 12:32 PM

I was just thinking along similar lines this morning. Specifically how horrid and narrowminded I am in revoking certain aspects of my friendship when I discover friends are passionate about something I don't care for (for instance...Twilight). Maybe I should come with a warning label...

Thought provoking post!

Luann | February 21, 2010 at 12:33 PM

I'm lovin your new bokeh-licious blog theme.

I'm sure I have hidden fees. I don't mean it be that way. It happens because I don't want to seem too demanding, so I just ask for a little. Then it just creeps up on me and I find myself expecting more than I though I needed in the beginning.

I have to figure out how to be happy with the little bit I asked for at the beginning, or be less timid about just laying it all out there from the start.

It's all very confusing. Obviously I have a lot of work to do.

Lola Sharp | February 21, 2010 at 1:42 PM

Love the new look.

A very interesting and honest post/analogy.

Jenny | February 21, 2010 at 1:59 PM

I love the new look of your blog. There are to many hidden fees that come with certain people! Some people I just ignore for that reason.

Lara Neves | February 21, 2010 at 2:25 PM

You are so wise. I just love the way you find deeper meaning in so many things.

I'm afraid there are WAY too many hidden fees in my life. I am going to have to start being more open in my expetations.

CHERRANNE | February 21, 2010 at 3:46 PM

Well put, Kaz....Well put. :)

Dedee | February 22, 2010 at 12:37 PM


I hate assumptions and expectations.

Long story, that.

Charlotte | February 23, 2010 at 3:47 PM

I love this post! I think you're absolutely right, I am going to examine what hidden fees I am charging the people in my life.