brrrr.. anyone else feel that draft?

We watched Dr. Strangelove tonight and my son asked a little about the cold war. Bombs that weren't dropped, threats never really carried through. The cold shoulders are what named this war, this period in our history.

We all have our cold wars. It might be against a neighbor or a coworker, or even something intangible, like a principle we are counseled to live by, like eating dinner together as a family or paying our debts. And if there really is someone who has avoided cold wars I would be surprised. We get defensive, mostly out of sheer self-protection, and our shoulders freeze up like icebergs.

I am guilty of this. My best self (the one buried somewhere in there) wishes that I could face everything head-on, with a smile, and solve it. But then my worst self (right on the surface) turns that shoulder just enough to make a point.

I need a nice warm electric coat to warm me up. I miss people sometimes because of the cold. I miss blessings. I miss opportunities. When have you been chilled?


CHERRANNE | April 21, 2009 at 10:58 PM

Truly-this should be published for EVERYONE to read! Wow, Kaz! WOW! Thanks for these ideas. Words of truth. You ROCK, Sistah!

Heidi | April 22, 2009 at 8:27 AM

I didn't realize cold shoulders led to the term "cold war". It totally makes sense though, doesn't it?

Lara Neves | April 22, 2009 at 9:50 AM

I really try to avoid that, but it's so hard! Excellent post.

Linde | April 22, 2009 at 10:08 AM

So true.

Connie | April 22, 2009 at 5:34 PM

When ever I think of a cold shoulder I think it's more of an adolescent behavior, then I realize I'm guilty of it and I'm no longer an adolescent.

You have such a way with words. Always learn from your posts!


Little GrumpyAngel | April 25, 2009 at 12:55 AM

beautiful post. i just recently thawed out of a cold war with a friend. looking back it was dumb. i'm glad i'm enjoying the blessing of having her in my life again.